Friend B and C’s kids are close friends. Friend A is friendly with both, longer term friends with B. Kids all get along.
On Thursday, Friend A invites Friends B and C to meet up at the park the following week. B and C say yes sounds great. No date is set, just tentative plans depending on weather and covid stuff.
On Sunday night, Friend A suggests Wednesday morning.
On Monday morning, Friend B replies the that that sounds good. Friend C does not reply.
Tuesday afternoon, Friend A suggests a meeting point to walk to park together. And suggests that if not everyone can meet, we can do it again soon.
Tuesday night, Friend B apologises for late reply, they’ve not been well and say they’ll confirm attendance the next morning. Nothing from Friend C.
Wednesday morning, day of meet, Friend A contacts Friend B separately and says they have an appointment so won’t be contactable until after certain time. Friend B replies saying that they are coming and will be a bit late.
Wednesday afternoon, a couple of hours after meeting was planned for, Friend C comments in original chat (with all 3 members) that afternoons are better for them. Friend B replies that they and Friend A are still at the park if they wanted to come.
Friend C gets pissy, saying they didn’t realise it was going ahead, their kid would’ve wanted to meet up and we should not have spoken privately. Friend B replied that they could still come.
Later Wednesday night, Friend A apologises saying it was her mistake, she didn’t think C was coming as she hadn’t replied. Friend B also apologised, also saying she hadn’t said she was coming and they hadn’t intentionally left her out. Friend C says she did reply but ok, no problem then leaves FB, or defriends, and is non-contactable.
Friends A is dumbfounded by behaviour. Friend B is upset at being guilt tripped but not surprised as she has exhibited similar behaviour previously. Friends A and B discuss and agree B will check in on C tomorrow after giving her some space.
So, were Friends A and B conspiring behind Friend C’s back and totally out of line, even though C hadn’t replied for days? Or is Friend C being particularly sensitive?
- I have no one to talk to about friend issues and am having another issue with a different friend and am feeling completely paranoid that I’m an absolute shit friend.