Just coming out of Melbourne’s lockdown this week. Early on in this lockdown DD7’s main teacher called and emailed a couple of times to check if we had login issues as we did previously, (DD had not done any work). I apologised for missing the calls, explained I was working on site still and was working additional hours and just taken on a promotion and that I would get her to catch up on the work soon. The teacher replied that was ok and basically not to stress.
Later that week (last week) I’m receiving several more missed calls / voice mails / emails from the school, this time from a different teacher (open plan set up). One of the emails even acknowledges that she knows I’ve been at work, but is phrased as an offer to do anything to help if possible.
I explain DDs refusal and extreme behaviour, that I’ve not been around as often as usual to follow up and am stricter / better able to get her to complete the tasks than her father (who stays to supervise her while I work). I don’t request any further support or assistance, just explain the situation.
The repeated calls etc don’t end there and she emails again to inform me she has consulted with one of the assistant principals who has agreed from now on DD may attend for on-site supervision.
By this stage I was feeling a bit irked at the amount of constant communication- especially despite the acknowledgement that I’m AT WORK (stop calling me!) And despite the wording being “checking in” and “offering support” I just felt a constant slap in the face that I was failing! And that she somehow thought she knew better than I did how to manage the situation.
This is the ONLY lockdown I tried to allow myself to NOT STRESS and truly, that week or two something had to give and it was the schoolwork!
I took a few days to ensure I was calm before responding but I politely told her that DD had attended last year, until we both ended up in self isolation for several days for what turned out to be incorrect information and this was a situation I couldn’t afford to be in again for several reasons.
(I didn’t go into them with her, but there was zero contact or support from the school and we isolated based off incorrect information provided by the hotline, we were shut down from discussing it on the parent fb page, it was quite traumatic and during our 700+ a day era.)
I also said that I felt that the physical and mental health of my family members during a lockdown outweighs some remote learning tasks and that DD often returned home without the work finished (I didn’t even get into the logistics of getting DD to and from OOSHC, booking in casual days for both that and on-site supervision etc. Plus financial and various other factors for why I’ve made the decision I have.)
I was not rude, I didn’t swear or use abusive or threatening language. I felt I had assertively explained myself.
Last night. 5.30 pm on a Friday night. I have a missed call and a voice mail from an assistant principal wanting me to follow up with him on the conversation I’ve had with her. FFS lockdown is finished, she’s back at school. Please leave me alone!