Pre teen vent.
OMG, DD is intolerable right now. Everything is unfair, everyone (actually just me) is against her, she shouldn’t have to do anything bla bla bla. I’m really struggling with it. She’s developing a view of me as against her and always on her brother’s side, but she’s so obnoxious to him and he’s so kind to her that of course it always ends up that way. How am I going to get through the next 8 years without alienating her, she’s awful!
And then my dad chips in about how I should write a letter to her because that’s what he used to do when mum wouldn’t listen to him. This is a guy who has never listened to anyone in his life. Any conversation with him will be 90% him talking and 10% the other person squeezing in if they can. He can come away from an interaction with someone who had 3 hospital visits and almost died that year, and not know, but they will know all about his army days 40 years ago.
I ignore it because you can’t change someone at this age, but it just seems so rich when his preferred method of communication is probably because it’s the one where the other person gets no voice at all. I don’t tell him anything about my life, I don’t engage with anything he says, because of this trait and then he has the gall to give me advice on how to get people to listen to you if they aren’t listening.