Curious if anyone feels they’ve found their purpose or passion, or if they feel a sense of purpose to their life. Or if you havent why do you think that is.

I don’t know that I have. Before I had children I worked all the time, was always trying to learn more and be better at it, liked getting promotions and positive feedback, but I would have been the same in any job. It wasn’t a vocation. After children, I think getting them to adulthood happy and productive is my main purpose in life, as 1950s as that might sound. If I was left to my own devices, my ideal life would be to sit in a room surrounded by books and just read all day and night.

Hmmm. Not really. I waiver between I exist, so let’s enjoy it, and what’s the point of it all, existence is suffering. However… I have become quite good at my job and I find it much more enjoyable now and it is one that makes for a healthier community, so that helps alleviate the existential angst most of the time now.

no, there was no way i could become a WWE wrestler i enjoy my job, customer service but its not a passion or career, just a job i have no desire to be some community godmother or whatever. I am happy just going about my life

I’ve been looking for something meaningful to do with my life, although working full-time, running a household and looking after my DD should be enough. In the past I’ve done volunteer work with animal rescues, so have thought about doing that again. A girlfriend said to me ’why do women keep volunteering for more work! You dont see men using their leisure time caring for others, they’d be playing golf or at the pub with mates’. While I do think she was making some big generalisations, its true that all the rescues I worked with were owned by women, and all the members of these group were women, the only men involved were reluctant husbands of the women. I also thought about her point, when Im already exhausted with day to day life, why do I effectively want to take on more labour… Found this while trying to understand my desire to volunteer and found it interesting. https://www.google.com/amp/s/hbr.org/amp/2018/07/why-women-volunteer-for-tasks-that-dont-lead-to-promotions

Annsy A girlfriend said to me ’why do women keep volunteering for more work! You dont see men using their leisure time caring for others, they’d be playing golf or at the pub with mates’ so true and in all honesty, its what i do, why should i default to more work cos im female, stuff that leisure comes first for us

Annsy It doesn’t necessarily have to be volunteering does it? It could even just be thinking about the kind of community you want to live in and make small changes. I feel better when I’m focussed out rather than in, so thinking how i can make someone else’s day a little easier works for me. Eg. Something I see that makes me smile is the lemons put out to share from their tree. Could be a small thing?

I don’t believe that people have a particular purpose in life, we are just really clever animals who happened to build ourselves a civilisation. So no I haven’t found it. If you mean have I found something that fulfils me then I’m pretty sure it’s reading a book next to a swim up bar in a never raining child free resort.

Have you found your purpose in life?

LadySybilVimes

I don’t know that I have. Before I had children I worked all the time, was always trying to learn mo...