Funny you said that about parenting a child with SN.
When my DD1 was in high school, I was at a school event and some of the other mums were complaining about their teen’s behaviour, as their teens weren’t like this in primary school, and the drastic change in behaviour was a shock to them.
I remember thinking that their complaints were about behaviours we’d been experiencing with DD1, from a very early age. (In fact, I used to joke when DD was in early primary school that she was going through her teenage years at the time).
At the time part of me was happy there were other mums who now understand some of the behaviours, but part of me was also sad because their kids would grow out of it, and DD wouldn’t.