What the heck. I’m having a red or two. Hello lovelies. Greetings to all. I’m cooking dinner whilst DH is out with DS2 at his basketball game. I’m feeling a little sad because FIL’s wife who has been residing in my B & B is leaving tomorrow to be with FIL in the aged care facility. She will have her own apartment. For those of you who don’t know, FIL has terminal brain cancer. They lived predominately in Canada (FIL’s wife has lived in Canada for about 45 years) and came to Australia for about 4 months of every year. Sadly last April, FIL was diagnosed with glioblastoma. We found out on Easter Saturday last year. Due to Covid 19, we didn’t think we’d ever see him again. Late last year, early this year, he was told by his oncologist that he had exhausted all treatment options and he has about 6 months left to live. They (FIL and his wife) decided to come home. Australia is home to FIL. All his family are here. So out they flew. They lived in my B & B since Feb until late March when FIL’s fall risk became too great. He went into care. Then FIL’s wife, let’s call her E had an unforseeable fall and broke her shoulder. She spent three weeks in hosptial. She can’t drive, cook etc. She will need a reverse shoulder reconstruction at some point but for the time she can delay that. She’s seeing the Dr in two weeks for a reassesment. So, in the meantime, she wants to be able to spend as much time with FIL as she can. The aged care facility has semi independant units on the premises. FIL is in the higher care area but they will be able to spend time together. He can spend time in her apartment and she can be with him. Plus there is a cafe on site. So many feelings going on. E’s kids are back in Canada and we are treating her like mum. No one knows how long FIL has left but according to the stats, the 14 month mark is coming. So far, he is well other than the tumor. :/ I had shut down my business for them and I’m in no hurry to re open it. I also work in a beautiful massive health food store. Eventually she will go back to Canada, after FIL dies. Probably not the most uplifting bar conversation going.

Heyho2 Us too! He has the financial resources thankfully. They came by private jet. He couldn’t risk catching covid as it would have been the end for him most likely.

That’s tough April. Preparing to lose a parent is a very difficult time. The knowing and grieving but still caring role is tough. Take care of yourself. I found my friends absolutely invaluable to my sanity in a similarly difficult time.

I am having a lazy Sunday evening mostly in front of the football. One child has cleaned their room. The other will hopefully comply before bedtime and I can start my work week feeling semi organised. I’m in Sydney for CPD for the latter half of the week and starting to look forward to two days of mostly pleasing only myself.

He, FIL is only 76, and is not indentifying with the residents who are much older. It’s really difficult as he is there due to his high risk of a fall. He had been asssesed by 5 professionals (Dr, social worker, physio, OT and speech pathologist) . The brain tumor means the messages are not getting through so he thinks he has taken a step when he hasn’t. Leading up to his diagnosis, he had been on a month travel expedition to Switzerland with his wife. My DD was travelling with her friend and they met up early last year in Vancouver and spent a week together. He is such an academic, an intellectual person who is renowned in his fields (architecture and railways). It’s so hard seeing him in this predicament. The daily activities at the care facility to him are so boring. At least with E there, he can spend time with her.

Im watching qi and drinking whisky. I went out for a totally delicious dinner last night with my oldest and dearest friend. My mum has just been down for a visit. My kid played footy today and kicked a goal, she’s done her homework, she’s eaten some vegetables. As long as I stay off twitter, I feel some peace with the world. Edited to.fix bad autocorrect

Heyho2 The good thing, if there is such a thing is that it is not a painful cancer. As it progresses, he will spend more time sleeping. He doesn’t look like a cancer patient. He looks ‘normal’. His parents lived until their 90s so he did not see this coming. It is also fortunate that he hasn’t become violent or the like as some people can be.

AprilEthereal Yeah, I knew a family where a father of a young family had quite a personality change. It was devastating. What your family is going through is still tough though xx

Sunday night bar.

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That’s a lot AprilEthereal

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Us too!

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He, FIL is only 76, and is not indentifying with the residents who are much older. It’s really diffi...

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Brain tumours are one of my worst fears, it seems like such a tough journey for all ...

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The good thing, if there is such a thing is that it is not a painful cancer. As it progress...

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Thank you lovely <3 I love gozleme. Especially spinach and cheese. Enjoy

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That’s my favourite….

I’m tucked up in bed after a nice dinner with DH and a far less enjoyable game of Monopoly with the kids.

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[Login to see the link] thinking of you, such a hard time for you all xx

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I have the cutest kid in the world 🙂

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She’s all moved in. Her apartment is well set up now. We just need to organise her phone and interne...

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