Happy Birthing Parents Day

OnFire

Because the focus is now on that one event our female bodies are designed for, never mind the work we do for the next 18 years of a child’s life.

wannabefree

Is it? Its not how I’ve ever interpreted mothers day.

OnFire

wannabefree

I am just reacting to some posts that have popped up into my Facebook page today. Can’t react on fb because I’d lose my job for not being woke and inclusive.

CallMeAl

OnFire

What do the posts say? I’m struggling to imagine.

ION, motherhood sucks. The kids bought me cheetos for mothers day, which I love. And they have eaten them all, which I don’t love. Motherhood really is all sacrifice isn’t it. I’ve given them a jolly good guilt trip though, pretty sure that’s a compulsory part of mothering too! But I’m still so cranky I don’t have my cheetos, I’d rather they didn’t buy them than have the promise of them and then get none.

Sorry, rather random vent but I’m on my 5:2 day and get food obsessed.

Annsy

Sad isn’t it.

Annsy

As a present to myself for mother’s day I emailed a bunch of senators and my local MP too ask for change with regards to childcare subsidy. I really need the 10hr a day cap lifted, it causes such pain in my life. As it is I have to be in the office tomorrow and I’m trying to work out how to travel 1.5hr, be in the office for 8 hrs, travel home 1.5hr and still be able to drop off and pickup my daughter from daycare in 10hrs. Have been able to avoid the issue thanks to WFH under Covid, but now need a solution that doesnt cost me an additional $350 a FN.

PuddingPlease

Is that actually a thing? I tried a few searches and nearly everything I found was (primarily pro Trump) right wing commentators ranting and raving. All my progressive friends are posting about mothers day today and nobody is using any other terms.

Edited to add: I’ve clicked on a few of the links and I’m starting to suspect that the ‘birthing peoples day’ thing might actually be an invention of the right intended to ridicule. The term is used a few times in articles reporting on the ‘black birthing individuals’ speech made by Cori Bush last year. If people are using the term un-ironically then they may have been Golden Gaytimed.

Annsy

A few posts I’ve seen say ‘Mothers and others in the role of mother’, I don’t mind that.

PuddingPlease

Annsy

That’s completely different, a lot of kids don’t live with their mothers so broadening the definition in that way allows them and their kinship or out of home carers to celebrate too. It also extends it to include step-mums, also totally reasonable.

I think the key difference is in the defining of motherhood as a social role as opposed to an exclusively biological function.

LadySybilVimes

No, it’s definitely a thing. I’ve been seeing woke left US Twitter types using “black birthing bodies” for a year or two now. Usually white people, oddly. I’ve seen several black women telling them to stop it because it’s dehumanising. Obviously they were ignored.

WidowWyncke

‘birthing bodies’ is dehumanising, it reduces us to a biological function.

It defines women as a biological class but it is not only who we are.

wannabefree

Anyone who views it that way, I feel sorry for those people’s mothers.

Myself, I refuse to take on other peoples meaning, probably a small minority I suspect. I WILL be celebrated for all my awesomeness as a mum that works bloody hard, giving love and support, and crusts cut off sandwiches, to the family I also happened to play a significant role in creating.

Heyho2

Fortunately havent seen this anywhere. Hope everyone is doing ok today with whatever mothers day looks like for you. It’s a complex one xx

Heyho2

Spoke too soon. Came across it on twitter today. Bleuch

PuddingPlease

CallMeAl

Valid vent. Kids can be tiny thoughtless jerks sometimes.

Marmalade

CallMeAl

I so know what you mean. The other day I found one of my fave choccies and took one bite. 9yo pipes up “oh I love those can I have half”. You feel like screaming - “SOME THINGS ARE MINE!” They def don’t get it.