I dunno, does anybody have to consciously do this and have strategies that I might find useful?
I had to train myself not to escalate when DH gets cranky and behaves badly but omg, as soon as I get some teen (preteen) attitude directed at me I lose all sense of proportion. The entitlement, the eyeroll, the know-it-all tone - I just cannot, it’s like nails down a chalkboard to me.
But I know I need to develop some way to short circuit my natural responses or DD and I might not make it through her teen-hood alive. She’s a good kid, I just need to get a handle on myself.
And seemingly have no ability to do so.